Hi all,
it's strange as it may seem, but we do have time delays ourselves.
Don't be rude, wait till the person is done speaking, then answer.
But this can be overrided, while the person is speaking they may say something that is in contradiction to one's belief hence the interruption is: you don't know what you're talking about.
Mostly this is engaged by strong emotions, especially when someone makes a remark about something or someone that you like or love.
If an individual likes a specific quarterback on a specific football team and you make a remark about that individual is a crappy quarterback, you will engage an emotional response because you have belittled that persons belief in the quarterback that he likes.
But if you were to engage the same person in such a manner that you were to compare one quarterback with the other to determine which quarterback has better stats, then it's usually let the research begin, let's check out the facts, see I told you my quarterback has better stats than the other quarterback.
Things that I have noticed with quick answers are usually directly connected to strong emotions, having or possessing, about oneself and about one's surroundings family, home life etc. are usually almost instantaneous responses, beyond the fact of our own delay that we have.
Even when you speak with someone if you listen you will notice that they are constantly breaking in order to process what they're going to say next.
I'm not sure, let's see, um, I'll have to think about it, or just total silence.
Few people can maintain a fluent train of thought, without engaging in these small breaks in order to process what you're going to say next, we learned this from each other by listening to other people utilize the small breaks, so it is accepted, so we all ignore these breaks.
I'll try to illustrate:
what did you do today Billy?
um, let's see, I got out of bed, ate breakfast um, went to work, oh yeah, after work we went to the bar and watch the football game, that about sums it up.
Or you might get something like this:
not much.
Short sweet right to the point, usually indicates that someone doesn't want to talk about the crappy day they're having.
I guess the point that I'm just trying to indicate is that we do pause before, during, and even after because sometimes we like to add stuff:
oh yeah we went to the sports bar and watch the football game, it sucked.
Oh wise that?
We lost the game!
So you can see even some pauses are meant to allow an individual to engage in to the conversation.
Have you ever been around a person that just won't stop talking?
They never really say anything, they just talk about their life or things about themselves or trivial stuff that has no meaning about anything they just seem to like to talk.
You never get a word in edgewise because they never introduce a pause or a break to allow another individual to engage in to the conversation.
Personally I think people do this because they just like to hear themselves talk, then again maybe they're looking for attention so they ramble on about things that have nothing to do with anything.
Or their anger becomes so overwhelming about a specific subject they become consumed and ramble on about this internal hate that they have about that particular subject in the hopes to belittle that individualor thing, to make themselves feel better.
Sincerely, and boy did this get off track, crunch crunch.
C load.
PS pauses are good, allowing one to adjust the pause is something I believe to be necessary so I hope that Robert can make the changes that we requested.
